“I can’t leave him alone, I tried that good boy thing, but the dope boy turning me on.” - Ciara quoted in her hit single back in 2006 I can’t leave him alone featuring rapper 50 cent.
How many girls can relate to this verse? Matter of fact, can you relate? Sis, do you have a guy in your life that you are entertaining, but deep in your soul you know he just feels good for the moment, but when the music turns off you are back to questioning yourself like “that’s it?” or "who am I kidding he's not it."
Rose, I want you to know you CAN have the man of your and feel REAL lasting butterflies not things for the moment. I don't really buy into anything that would make me feel great in the now. I don't like being teased. Do you like being teased girly? I don't see any reasons why you'll want to get hold of something that is not a promise. The guy you have discernment about is God's way of warning you and protecting you from a potential heartbreak.
The idea of being with a rough, street, unfriendly hood guy is ravishing feeling. And before you say Nancy not all dudes that are in that description are harmful for you and you’re right! I am describing the guy you know isn’t right for you, the man you entertain only due to your loneliness, he is texting you all the things you want because summer is here and your phone is dry so you are giving him attention.
Let me tell you what this particular guy will cost you write this on your phone, tablet or journal.
A couple reasons why fooling around with him is not in your advantage
He is the available guy right now. He’s in your face. No other dude is checking for you right now. This isn’t safe because in actuality you are settling. Secondly, messing with him will bring unfulfilled hopes. I’ve been in scenarios where I wanted the wrong guy to turn into the right guy by trying to adjust him to my liking. This only left me looking like a clown because you can’t change anyone or tweak them into becoming what you want.
And lastly, know that you deserve more. Don’t do it to yourself emotionally dealing with somebody that’s taking up space. Get rid of the distractions. Will this be easy? HECK NO.
You've already started talking to him and perhaps you like him or he attends your church, but you can do ALL things through Christ who gives you strength! If you need help getting over your crush email me: nancyencourage@gmail and to take it a step further, would you like for me to make a video on it? Let me know in the comments! You know I love writing to you, be encouraged catch you on my next blog!
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