Self-Love. Let's take a minute to think about that word.
Self-Love. Let's take another minute to decide what it means.
For me, “Self-Love means accepting myself for my strengths and my weaknesses. It means trusting myself, protecting myself and most of all it means making myself happy and content.” - FaithnTurtles
Coming to this personal definition wasn't easy. Loving yourself, like many other things in life is often easier said than done. I have been saying I love myself for many years but I didn't fully know or appreciate that or what it meant until God made me appreciate it.
When I decided to transform my pain into purpose is when I truly began to love myself
How I Truly Learned to Love Myself
"For every Man shall bear his own burden"- Galatians 6:5
I have made decisions in my life that may not have been the wisest of decisions and for a long time, I was haunted by those decisions. I was haunted by the mistakes or wrong turns I felt that I made. Yet, I claimed Self-Love.
How can I love myself but at the same time not accept myself? Logically it doesn't make sense so I asked God to give me acceptance. Accepting yourself is the first step in loving and celebrating yourself.
In learning to accept yourself you will realize that you are a self.
"a person's essential being that distinguishes them from others especially considered as the object of introspection or reflexive action. "
Yourself is what makes you unique. The element of your being that sets you apart from everyone else in the world. Doesn't that sound cool?
In accepting myself I came to the realization that I am a self. I am a person with unique capabilities, unique decision-making skills, unique adversities and although these may lead to what are "common mistakes" that humans make; I am still unique in making them. This also means that I must be unique I overcoming and unique in loving myself.
I am not my decisions
I am not my decisions. After accepting myself and noting the fact that I am a self. I then noted the fact that I am not my decisions. One element of myself doesn't define me as a person. Only I can define me, no one else can.
I am not my friends, family or parents
I am not my past relationships
I am not my failures
I am not my successes
I am a product of what I have been through and overcame. I am a product of my experiences that have shaped me into a good person who strives to empower others. I am a product of my never-ending fight to be the best that I can be as instructed by God.
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How can you accept yourself and come to a distinct understanding about your being but you have not forgiven yourself? How can you ask God for forgiveness but you have not forgiven yourself?
In the answers to these questions, I found self-love.
"if we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" 1st John 1:9
It's a Journey
Loving yourself won't happen overnight. You need to take the time to know yourself, accept yourself, forgive yourself and then the love will find you.
It's a journey and a process of continued improvement but with faith, you will get there, if you aren't already.
I hope you got a take away from my experiences and writing. Thank you so much for reading and Thank you to Nancy for featuring me on her blog. You can read her Journey to self-love piece: here.
FaithnTurtles is a lifestyle blog created by Shanice, a Caribbean girl with Big Dreams. Shanice holds a B.Sc. in Psychology and tries to use her platform to share life and self-help tips and tricks with faith at the base.
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