“I can’t leave him alone, I tried that good boy thing, but the dope boy turning me on.” - Ciara quoted in her hit single back in 2006 I can’t leave him alone featuring rapper 50 cent.
How many girls can relate to this verse? Matter of fact, can you relate? Sis, do you have a guy in your life that you are entertaining, but deep in your soul you know he just feels good for the moment, but when the music turns off you are back to questioning yourself like “that’s it?” or "who am I kidding he's not it."
Rose, I want you to know you CAN have the man of your and feel REAL lasting butterflies not things for the moment. I don't really buy into anything that would make me feel great in the now. I don't like being teased. Do you like being teased girly? I don't see any reasons why you'll want to get hold of something that is not a promise. The guy you have discernment about is God's way of warning you and protecting you from a potential heartbreak.
The idea of being with a rough, street, unfriendly hood guy is ravishing feeling. And before you say Nancy not all dudes that are in that description are harmful for you and you’re right! I am describing the guy you know isn’t right for you, the man you entertain only due to your loneliness, he is texting you all the things you want because summer is here and your phone is dry so you are giving him attention.
Let me tell you what this particular guy will cost you write this on your phone, tablet or journal.
A couple reasons why fooling around with him is not in your advantage
He is the available guy right now. He’s in your face. No other dude is checking for you right now. This isn’t safe because in actuality you are settling. Secondly, messing with him will bring unfulfilled hopes. I’ve been in scenarios where I wanted the wrong guy to turn into the right guy by trying to adjust him to my liking. This only left me looking like a clown because you can’t change anyone or tweak them into becoming what you want.
And lastly, know that you deserve more. Don’t do it to yourself emotionally dealing with somebody that’s taking up space. Get rid of the distractions. Will this be easy? HECK NO.
You've already started talking to him and perhaps you like him or he attends your church, but you can do ALL things through Christ who gives you strength! If you need help getting over your crush email me: nancyencourage@gmail and to take it a step further, would you like for me to make a video on it? Let me know in the comments! You know I love writing to you, be encouraged catch you on my next blog!
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Stop self sabotaging.
Read that again.....
Self sabotage: the act of destroying or damaging something deliberately so that it does not work properly (courtesy of Miriam Webster Dictionary)
Self sabotaging behaviors : procrastination, comfort eating, utilizing drugs, alcohol, self injury such as cutting yourself.
I’ll add my own; stagnation, isolation, depression, toxic, neglecting oneself and doing the same thing over and over again, but desiring change.
Rose, a couple days ago. I found myself doing this. I went into a place in my mind and it was a low corner. A dark, ashy and gloomy corner where I sat and the more I sat in this place in my mind the more sadden I felt. I usually appreciate dearly my alone time, but this time I was not alone.
My dark thoughts and depression wanted in. They weren’t too far from me.
How have you been since this month started? This week? Do you find yourself harming you? I know you are probably thinking “that’s too extreme. I don’t cut myself girl” and a knife may not be a getaway for you or an object you run too, but are you thinking low of yourself? Did you start believing and then along the way shrugged your shoulders like “if it happens I guess?”
Did you stop practicing what you were preaching? Are the things God told you in secret via dreams and visions all look too much for you? See, that’s not the issue.
The real issue is your mind playing tricks on you. Your nasty thoughts that’s overwhelming you. You have the power to control those thoughts. You don’t have to sabotage yourself anymore. Yes, it’s so much easier to lay down in discomfort and pity (I’ve done it)
But, honestly. You are not hurting anyone but yourself.
Here’s some leading causes that may be the main issue to your self sabotage.
Rose, I love you, but you have to love you enough to get out of the hole you dig. I know we LOVE to ask God to get us out, but 90% of the time he has given us tools to get out, so what’s the delay? We are lazy! We are afraid of leaving what makes our dark corner feel great.
3 John 1:2 Beloved, I pray that in every way you may prosper and enjoy good health, as it goes well with your soul.
John 10: 10 The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.
1 Peter 5:7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.
Sis, get out of your dark corner and create a new corridor dazzled with lights from above after all you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you. Be encouraged!
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