This blog is strictly for the purpose of encouraging and helping other young ladies who may feel like a failure for starting something and in result did not go as planned. On your journey, you are allowed to receive from Jesus Christ as you hear him doesn’t matter how it makes other people feel as well as start over.
I am putting a HUGE stop on blogging for now and who knows what the future will carry. I may or not pick this back up, but I’m willing to open up and share with you WHY I decided peacefully within my heart to no longer blog after a whole year and some months.
I started blogging April of 2018, I originally launched it from the website called Wix.com TRY IT if you are a new blogger and need something beginner friendly. It was enjoyable until I wanted a new layout. See, Wix is a great tool to use if you are a rookie, but do your own research and find out its pro’s and cons when you choose a layout you cannot change it unless you get an entire new look which can be frustrating if you are creative like me. Fast forward, I switched over to Weebly which became my favorite, if you scroll down my blog page you will notice it says November 2018 instead of April (Nancy F Blog) I LOVE writing so much it’s truly a part of who I am. In real life you can catch me 90% of the time sitting down somewhere with a journal and a pen on my lap jotting down ideas, revelation from Jesus & planning.
Fun facts about Wix and Weebly
Wix is free!
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Nancy if you love it so much why are you stopping?!
When the Lord revealed my purpose back in 2014, 2016 and 2017 blogging was a part of it, not the whole thing. These days, I visualize being pushed in a different direction and I'm at ease with it. Yes, the results of blogging were not all the best for my upcoming brand, but I learned a lot. The messages I received from teen girls and young women expressing how I helped them and challenge their way of thinking was amazing! I am deeply grateful.
At first, I felt like a total flop. I was promoting my blog because truthfully I had something to say that I believe the world needed to hear especially my targeted audience; curious to know who they are ? Follow my Instagram page www.instagram.com/nancyfleuridor. Self promoting made me super proud because If I didn't believe in me who will? I planned accordingly, sent newsletters after messing up 100 X 100 times and oh how I desired to throw my purple laptop across the wall on numerous occasions at 2AM in my room figuring it all out. Frustration level was intense. The amount of tabs opened on my search engine was bananas, but honestly sis nothing beats research than actually putting in the work over and over again until it looks right. The whole point of doing research is to apply what you are learning. The big F word (failure) was louder than Popeye's free advertisement on social media. I could not deny the tugging in my belly. With prayer and Holy Spirit bringing back into remembrance many things, it was assuring to know failure is actually a staircase for me. It produced resilience, endurance, laughter and the ability to be honest with myself and grow from what did not work out. Nonetheless, the prince of peace Jesus the Lord God almighty granted my very need. A peace that surpasses all understanding and guided my heart and mind in him.
In conclusion, I am throwing the ball back at you. What will you do when the thing you expected to work and do great in doesn’t? Will you run and hide? Be in denial? Can you go back to the drawing board and trust God for the new thing? Don’t be discourage, failure is necessary for where you are going. If you sense Jesus leading you in a new direction in your life FOLLOW HIM he is in Heaven you and I are on Earth there’s no telling where he will bring you when you trust and obey. Thank you for your genuine support towards me. May goodness and mercy follow you all the days of your life. Stay connected with me on IG, Twitter and Facebook @nancyfleuridor Bizou in creole and kisses in English Xoxoxo.
"The end of this, but not my journey you'll see more of me." - Nancy F
Songs that encouraged me and I hope they become your faves:
Travis greene- Be still
Jalisa Faye- Starting Over
Chris Tomlin- Good good father
William Becton - Be encouraged
William Mcdowell - Everlasting God
Joe Praize- I am blessed
Zechariah 4:10 Do not despise these small beginnings for the Lord rejoices to see the work begin
Proverbs 16:9 We can make our plans but the Lord decides where we will go.
Luke 12:32 Fear not little flock for it is your father's good pleasure to give you the kingdom.
NANCY F, BIG HEARTS
Happy to have you back! Now if you are anything like myself I LOVE the internet for good reasons! I wholeheartedly enjoy researching and finding new ways to connect with family and friends. It’s accessible for college students, social life, finding out quick answers and I often use the web to search bible scriptures in a heartbeat (Don’t lie you probably do it too!) However, with all the great things on the internet I cannot deny that it comes with a corruptible side when not used properly.
Moreover, where there is good, one can expect bad to lurk behind the scenes. Prime example; we have the Angels of the Lord along with Satan and his demons. Over the years, I’ve discovered the necessary need for a balance on the internet. If not careful, sites such as Porn-hub, hacking sites, gossiping outlets and even some dating organizations can be harmful for the mind, body and spirit.
In like manner, your eyes are like a camera that sends signals to your brain. It captures pictures of things that you’ll remember for years down the line and the more you yield to negative images and information it will affect your spirit and mood. You must be cautious to which you give your eyes access to.
In essence, I will be sharing 9 internet rules to live by! Just to mention, the world of the internet is at your fingertips you carry the power to decide if you will use it in a great way where it can benefit you or you’re able to demolish yourself by abusing it. The choice is yours.
Rule #1 Set boundaries | Do not share everything online leave a little mystery. Certain things are better offline.
Rule #2 Use it for a positive cause | I know you can decide, but because I have your back I’ll advise you to be a light in a dark crooked world we could use more light!
Rule #3 Your naked pictures go somewhere, just not deleted! If anyone asks, DON’T SEND THEM!
Rule #4 Refrain from arguing with people you barely know| Sis, I’d hate for you to look silly out in these streets. If ever you are itching to respond to an internet thug ask yourself “What would Jesus Do?”
Rule #5 Don’t consume too much of the internet | Are you always online? If yes, you may want to ease up on your screen time. Too much of this equals lack of human interaction. Talk to your families, put your phone on do not disturb and learn to click the “X” button.
Rule #6 If a stranger ask for personal information such as your address, a picture of you and anything that seems abnormal.. Don’t share it EVER!
Rule #7 Fake pages and accounts are whack! Never do this, it’s truly tacky!
Rule #8 Comparing yourself to people on a computer screen is ridicule! You are you and that’s your power! Own that power.
Rule #9 Be yourself! When I was younger, I would imagine to be like a top notch celebrity and everyone would know me and love me, but as I grew wise and mature I found the best thing anyone can be is themselves. | Jesus died for you, not a reproduction of you.
Rose, my job is for you to grow and go out in the world and conquer. Make wise decisions. Your future awaits you, greet it with great news. I am not expecting perfection from you, but what you can control, do it. Be encouraged and thank you so much for reading! Bizou muah!
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“I can’t leave him alone, I tried that good boy thing, but the dope boy turning me on.” - Ciara quoted in her hit single back in 2006 I can’t leave him alone featuring rapper 50 cent.
How many girls can relate to this verse? Matter of fact, can you relate? Sis, do you have a guy in your life that you are entertaining, but deep in your soul you know he just feels good for the moment, but when the music turns off you are back to questioning yourself like “that’s it?” or "who am I kidding he's not it."
Rose, I want you to know you CAN have the man of your and feel REAL lasting butterflies not things for the moment. I don't really buy into anything that would make me feel great in the now. I don't like being teased. Do you like being teased girly? I don't see any reasons why you'll want to get hold of something that is not a promise. The guy you have discernment about is God's way of warning you and protecting you from a potential heartbreak.
The idea of being with a rough, street, unfriendly hood guy is ravishing feeling. And before you say Nancy not all dudes that are in that description are harmful for you and you’re right! I am describing the guy you know isn’t right for you, the man you entertain only due to your loneliness, he is texting you all the things you want because summer is here and your phone is dry so you are giving him attention.
Let me tell you what this particular guy will cost you write this on your phone, tablet or journal.
A couple reasons why fooling around with him is not in your advantage
He is the available guy right now. He’s in your face. No other dude is checking for you right now. This isn’t safe because in actuality you are settling. Secondly, messing with him will bring unfulfilled hopes. I’ve been in scenarios where I wanted the wrong guy to turn into the right guy by trying to adjust him to my liking. This only left me looking like a clown because you can’t change anyone or tweak them into becoming what you want.
And lastly, know that you deserve more. Don’t do it to yourself emotionally dealing with somebody that’s taking up space. Get rid of the distractions. Will this be easy? HECK NO.
You've already started talking to him and perhaps you like him or he attends your church, but you can do ALL things through Christ who gives you strength! If you need help getting over your crush email me: nancyencourage@gmail and to take it a step further, would you like for me to make a video on it? Let me know in the comments! You know I love writing to you, be encouraged catch you on my next blog!
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Stop self sabotaging.
Read that again.....
Self sabotage: the act of destroying or damaging something deliberately so that it does not work properly (courtesy of Miriam Webster Dictionary)
Self sabotaging behaviors : procrastination, comfort eating, utilizing drugs, alcohol, self injury such as cutting yourself.
I’ll add my own; stagnation, isolation, depression, toxic, neglecting oneself and doing the same thing over and over again, but desiring change.
Rose, a couple days ago. I found myself doing this. I went into a place in my mind and it was a low corner. A dark, ashy and gloomy corner where I sat and the more I sat in this place in my mind the more sadden I felt. I usually appreciate dearly my alone time, but this time I was not alone.
My dark thoughts and depression wanted in. They weren’t too far from me.
How have you been since this month started? This week? Do you find yourself harming you? I know you are probably thinking “that’s too extreme. I don’t cut myself girl” and a knife may not be a getaway for you or an object you run too, but are you thinking low of yourself? Did you start believing and then along the way shrugged your shoulders like “if it happens I guess?”
Did you stop practicing what you were preaching? Are the things God told you in secret via dreams and visions all look too much for you? See, that’s not the issue.
The real issue is your mind playing tricks on you. Your nasty thoughts that’s overwhelming you. You have the power to control those thoughts. You don’t have to sabotage yourself anymore. Yes, it’s so much easier to lay down in discomfort and pity (I’ve done it)
But, honestly. You are not hurting anyone but yourself.
Here’s some leading causes that may be the main issue to your self sabotage.
Rose, I love you, but you have to love you enough to get out of the hole you dig. I know we LOVE to ask God to get us out, but 90% of the time he has given us tools to get out, so what’s the delay? We are lazy! We are afraid of leaving what makes our dark corner feel great.
3 John 1:2 Beloved, I pray that in every way you may prosper and enjoy good health, as it goes well with your soul.
John 10: 10 The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.
1 Peter 5:7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.
Sis, get out of your dark corner and create a new corridor dazzled with lights from above after all you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you. Be encouraged!
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Hey Rose if I told you that you are standing in your own way of having it all would you believe me?
I love the topic of confidence because so many girls and young women in middle school,junior high and college go through various cycles in their lives feeling insecure. Insecure about their bodies, talents, gifts, hair, birth-mark and where they come from. Isn’t it like the enemy to utilize society to make you dislike everything about you that God made unique???
“The things that makes you unique are the very things the enemy manipulated you to dislike.” - Nancy Fleuridor
You are questioning and uncertain of the parts that causes you to stand out. I, too had very low insecurity moments during my elementary through middle school and a little bit of high school. Occasionally, I now shock myself when I hear the boldness that escapes my mouth. “Nancy did you just say that?!!! Girl who do you think you are?!” I’ve gotten used to it though.
See what shift for me was my MIND. I began to believe God’s word over my lie and decided for the rest of my life I won’t allow a single human being to ever make me doubt the real me. You want to gain confidence? You wish to walk with your head high instead of a sad puppy with their head down then believe what the Lord says girl. Confess out loud I AM from God’s kingdom, I AM in his image meaning I can make wise decisions like him and showcase love to all mankind. I AM a winner and I AM a millionaire because the Kingdom has plenty. Rose, finish this statement I AM……
In essence, to say it out loud is not sufficient. A habit must be birthed within you. Train your mind and body to agree with every syllable and vowel. Screenshot below how to boost your confidence and not settle in your thinking ever again!!
Rose, I hope you understand how real it is for your confidence to take off this year! We are in 2019 and old ways cannot continue following us. From now on, upgrade your thinking. I see you, but God sees you! Be encourage, Je’ taime!
Nancy F, MUAH!
When you are testing and your answer sheet contains multiple choice questions there’s usually five options to select from. You have choice A, B, C, D and E! If you really study for your test or exam then choosing an answer will not be an issue being that you are well prepared.
In essence, your decisions are the same way. God gives us the liberty to choose. I often wonder do you recognize that there’s options for you? Do you? I hope you aren’t letting anyone rob you of your freedom.
I know you are familiar with the saying “create the life you want to live.” But often we as humans, create a life to please others. I know high school teens who are fearful of choosing a career or a business simply due to their Caribbean parents. Caribbean parents love dictating their child’s future and path for school. Some children grow up hearing “Pou kisa ou pa al fe doctor?” or “ Al fe nursing.” and while there’s nothing wrong with nurses and doctors, the issue lies in the false smirk or agreement a child makes to persuade their parents in believing that’s what they want.
College girls would hear this threat. “If you get a degree in a stupid career I won’t support you.” A stupid career choice is any choice that does not meet the parents standard….
Yes, this can create discouragement, but my question for you is simple. How long will you live under someone else decisions for your life? Your income? You can try to please mom and dad, but your life will encounter a stop sign and when the light changes color it will be up to you, then what?
HOW WELL ARE YOU UTILIZING YOUR FREEDOM?
Adam was the first man in the bible in the book of Genesis written by Moses. The Lord created everything on numerous days. He then form Adam in his image and likeness. When you read the word, you’ll see Adam had such liberty before it was taken away by his sin. He was in charge of naming the animals, the fishes and whatever else he desired. Adam named Eve. God did not name Eve, as a Leader he was in charge. Funny enough, no where in the bible did Adam ask God questions all the time concerning his choices. “God can I do this? Can I go there? May I have this?” He knew his responsibilities. Girl,do you know yours? Sometimes you are asking everyone what you should do when the decision is up to you. Ask yourself, what do I want out of life? What does God want me to have?
WHY YOU MAY THINK YOU DO NOT HAVE A CHOICE.
I remember living with my cousin. I was a senior in High school. I use to babysit my little cousins and help them with homework assignments to assure they were in good standing in school. One day, I decided to ask her to go somewhere I felt like I was doing the same boring routine. Home, school, home repeat. That was me and I no longer enjoyed that pattern. It was an afternoon, when a group of church organizations visited my school for some after school activities and all grades were welcome.
When I asked my cousin for the green light to attend she told me no. She then told me these words which is my inspiration for this blog post. “You don’t have a choice.” The anger I experienced was unexplainable. How dare she? Was my thought. I whispered within myself “I do have a choice.” Ever since then, I promised myself to never make anyone decide my life for me or make me feel caged in. You who are reading my blog, the reason why you may not think you have a choice is because someone told you, you didn’t. You believed those lies. Go back and recall a day when someone robbed you and gave you a false statement. Reclaim your power back now. Tomorrow is not promised.
WHICH ANSWER WILL YOU CHOOSE?
It all boils down to this. Which answer will you choose for your future. Are you fine and nonchalant about people interfering in your path telling you what you will and will not do? Did you give folks free tickets to impose their unwelcome negative energy on your goals by saying things like “it’ll take too long” or “everyone that ever tried doing it never got really far.” Or can you decide from this day and tomorrow and the day after, you will be the CEO on earth for your dreams. Everything that’s good and is attached with a tug within you is from the Lord. He placed it there knowing what it can produce fruit. Why are you scared of getting what’s rightfully yours? Time is always ticking, your dreams won’t become reality until you make up in your mind to achieve them.
WHAT DOES THE RIGHT ANSWER COMES WITH?
Mark this on the calendar of your heart and mind. The right answer will come with opposition. Jeremiah (in the bible) made the right choice. The Lord anointed him to be a Prophet to a nation and his delivery was not sweet. He had to tell the people some harsh stuff, but nonetheless, he persevere. There was a point, in his obedience the congregation was plotting to get rid of him. Rose, don’t be discouraged. Just because the fire is intense does not mean you did not make the right choice. Use the fire as evidence that you did make the best choice. Furthermore, the right answer is the one you listen to that is from Heaven. The right answer is the confirmation you receive over and over again from random or close people telling you to pursue that passion within you and the right answer is the one you make when nobody understands; just you and God. Every man and woman in the bible who chose the right way, God’s plan and his leading had a mighty outcome. You too can have a powerful story to share with the nation. Stop being afraid. Quit thinking it cannot happen for you, yes it will and it can. Just decide and be willing to work so your life won’t ever be the same. See you at the top, be encourage!
I want to know if anything I've mentioned resignated with you in some way. Hang out with me below and stay tune for more. Appreciate you for reading, au revior!
POP QUIZ QUESTION: How do you feel when you find out that a guy you like is not into you? Are you embarrassed? Does it make you feel weird? Less than or do you take it like a troop and keep it moving?
I’ll be real. When I use to have crushes on guys like crazy my-journey-to-singleness-after-always-having-a-man.html read about my single chronicles. I felt hurt when a guy did not have mutual emotions towards me. The sad part, I started to doubt who I was…..Please don’t ever do this why? Jesus didn’t doubt going on the cross for you, it was not by accident it was a choice. YOU are a choice.
In this blog, I’d like to share 13 signs to know when a man is not into you. Whether you are crushing, you two are talking and something happened or you are curious to know Nancy how can I tell if he does not feel the same way? Below you’ll read my point of view among other people I interviewed for the purpose of encouraging you.
WHY A GUY MAY LOSE INTEREST?
Study shows that most of the time when a man loses interest it has nothing to do with the individual. Think of that Chris Brown song where he explained that he does not feel the same way he once felt about the young lady. Rose, don’t beat yourself up or assume anything too swiftly perhaps, it’s him. He may be going through a lot and a girlfriend is not what he needs.
WHY ARE SIGNS IMPORTANT??
Every street has a stop sign that means stop completely. There is a red, yellow and green light to prevent accidents. In the same manner, signs are there to warn us from possible danger. The bible has plenty of signs if you take a sit and read. Proverbs 14:12 There is a way that seems right unto a man, but in the end, it leads to death. What about Philippians 4:6 Do not be anxious for anything. These are all warnings and signs for a successful life.
WHAT TO DO WHEN THE FEELINGS IS NOT MUTUAL?
Sis, it happens. This is perfectly normal. I would not recommend sending subliminal messages on Social media knowing he follows your account this is NOT classy. Simply fix your crown and move forward. There is a guy who cannot wait to meet you and fall in love with you. It is not the end of the world. Find the courage and go.
“You should never stay where you are not wanted.” - Nancy Fleuridor
Here are the signs below! Screenshot, tweet (give me my credit lol) and share with another rose you know that’s struggling. We have all been there, nothing to be ashamed of.
1. No attention is given to you. A guy will always show interest in what he truly wants. If he is not showing it then you are not what he wants.
2. Always want to talk about sex. This is a red flag. If he is constantly talking about getting you in bed, he may like you….but for one thing.
3. Doesn’t support your dreams and aspirations. Pay close attention to his demeanor towards the conversations you two have.
4. You don’t meet important people like his family or close friends. This is a dead giveaway. Ask yourself why is he trying to keep you a secret? There is a BIG difference in a man who wants to keep a relationship on the low, but still shows you off so people will know he is taken then there’s your appearance is not shown at all. Check that sis.
5. Flirt with other girls in front of you. A guy like this is probably not ready for a serious relationship. He still want to have fun, let him by walking away.
6. Does not pursue you. I am a strong believer and witness that if a man genuinely wants you to be his, he will not lose any sleep! He will be chasing after you like a dog chase after food. Ok? Do not get it confuse.
7. Doesn’t tell you anything about himself. Something is highly up when a guy does this. What is he trying to hide? (P.s if you share things to him about you and he does not ask any questions about you in return he does not want to get to know you like that...Sis take a chill pill with cold water)
8. Only want to see you at night. Did someone say booty call?!
9. When he says he just wants to be friends. Girl, believe him. He wants nothing more.
10. Loses interest along the way. This is a tricky one and can be for multiple reasons. Maybe you are moving too fast in the conversations, maybe he found someone else he like better. Again, let him do him do not waste time crying over spilled milk, it's spilled!
11. When you are always the one texting/calling first! If you are all over him and he is not all over you… I am sorry to tell you, but he’s not that into you.
12. Secretive about his whereabouts. You two may not be married, but little petty secrets are childish. A sign of this behavior indicates he may not trust you.
13. A major sign that he is not into you is when God revealed it to you via dreams, actions, word of mouth or you feel something heavy! God has given everyone common sense + the ability to seek him. If you prayed concerning a guy and God shows you who he is, as much as you like him don’t continue entertaining him it will not be beneficial in the end.
All 13 signs were gathered from previous experiences, interviews, and research. I will add the links of my interviewers below where you are able to connect with them. I will be back with more great content for you. Thank you for hanging out with me.
Interviewers Instagram accounts:
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Being Haitian and living under a Haitian household can be both bitter and sweet. Why sweet? Well, most of our Caribbean parents demonstrate tough love because they truly care about us, but have an interesting way of showing it. We enjoy their delicious meals, but at times, even that is not enough.
When I was a teenager, I did not know certain feelings and perspective were “okay” to have. My grandparents, aunts, uncles and other fellow family members assumed children at my age, did not have any massive issues to worry about. I would always hear this sentence “Ou pa genyen aucun bill pou peye se timoun ou ye. Ki pwoblem ou genyen?” this false quote and question were discouraging to hear.
Perhaps you live in a home where your parents are always at work doing their best to keep food on the table and lights in the house or you live with guardians who are not emotionally connected and doesn’t create a safe place for you to express yourself. I want you to know that’s It’s okay to not be okay. You are doing the best you can and there IS someone who cares about your personal struggles!
I wish more parents understood that school, keeping up with grades, professors, the pressure to become this A student and boys all play a role in the everyday teen life, oh and let’s not forget the puberty phase and group of friends. Below I will share a couple of resources + advice you can implement if you’re struggling with not being okay.
Ready to get lifted? This will only work when you MAKE it work.
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Yes we’re living the single life we are living oooh in this 90’s kind of world I’m glad I got my girl..... finish it if you know it!
The thought of being single forever scared me at one point. I imagined how my life was would be if it lived it all alone? It was a terrifying thought, but here’s what I’ve discovered while I’m single. God is the one who placed the desire within me for marriage plus, to desire marriage isn’t a sin so don’t feel bad when other women look at you funny. (I’ve gotten weird looks due to the fact marriage isn’t really respected in this generation) Also, it’s not that deep. I’ve been without a man (my-journey-to-singleness-after-always-having-a-man.html) for quite some time. I’ll like to believe partial of it was God and then there was me. Why me? Well, Heaven and Earth must agree. Nothing happens on earth occurs without Heaven consent your girl was a bit stubborn during the beginning stages of singleness. Due to this fact, some lessons took longer to learn. Sis, God may have called you into a season of singleness, but understand the longer it takes for you to grasp what he wants to show you the longer you’ll be single.
Contentment in the Lord is GREAT gain. 1 Timothy 6: 6-11.
I cannot stress this enough, to be fully satisfied and unbothered by the cares of this life makes it easier to HEAR from Jesus. How can someone hear when they have their earplugs in? Wouldn’t you turn the volume down to understand what somebody is trying to say? In the same way, turn that volume down in your spirit and hear for instructions and clarity.
Below are 3 things I acknowledge and ran with for the pursuit of living my best life while my martial status is single.
#1 It’s not that deep. Yes marriage looks beautiful. The freedom to have someone to call your own and have legal intimacy with is amazing! But it’s not that serious. Marriage is serious, but the anxiety, the stress, the longing to be with someone is not the end of the world. There’s so much more to life that I believe we’ve put on the back burner only to study what’s to come in the future. How horrible? Jesus has given you this present life yet you are worried about every hour of it. (Matthew 6:34) Again, if God placed the desire in you to become a wife then trust that he will fulfill it. No need to worry anymore.
#2 Ecclesiastes 9:11 My favorite part of this scripture is the line that says time and chance will happen to them all. This freed me! I can have all the understanding, wisdom, skill and etc but time and chance happens to EVERYONE. God knows exactly where you are and need to be.
#3 Waiting will reveal what’s in your heart and it brings HOPE. Nothing expose you more than when you want something your heart will snitch on you. Additionally, When you want something you wait patiently for it. Hope that is seen is not hope because nobody hopes for what they can already see... I know I don’t. I don’t mind waiting on God just as long as he teaches me how to do it. Pray that God will teach you like an instructor teaches a student to wait. Wait with joy & contentment. Wait while minding your business. It's a whole world out there why aren't you living?
These were my 3 Epiphany’s. What were some of yours? Are you learning like I am in my singleness? Don’t be hard on yourself, you will make more mistakes, but after falling seven times you will stand up eight!
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Thanks for reading! Be encouraged. Xoxo
Self-Love. Let's take a minute to think about that word.
Self-Love. Let's take another minute to decide what it means.
For me, “Self-Love means accepting myself for my strengths and my weaknesses. It means trusting myself, protecting myself and most of all it means making myself happy and content.” - FaithnTurtles
Coming to this personal definition wasn't easy. Loving yourself, like many other things in life is often easier said than done. I have been saying I love myself for many years but I didn't fully know or appreciate that or what it meant until God made me appreciate it.
When I decided to transform my pain into purpose is when I truly began to love myself
How I Truly Learned to Love Myself
"For every Man shall bear his own burden"- Galatians 6:5
I have made decisions in my life that may not have been the wisest of decisions and for a long time, I was haunted by those decisions. I was haunted by the mistakes or wrong turns I felt that I made. Yet, I claimed Self-Love.
How can I love myself but at the same time not accept myself? Logically it doesn't make sense so I asked God to give me acceptance. Accepting yourself is the first step in loving and celebrating yourself.
In learning to accept yourself you will realize that you are a self.
"a person's essential being that distinguishes them from others especially considered as the object of introspection or reflexive action. "
Yourself is what makes you unique. The element of your being that sets you apart from everyone else in the world. Doesn't that sound cool?
In accepting myself I came to the realization that I am a self. I am a person with unique capabilities, unique decision-making skills, unique adversities and although these may lead to what are "common mistakes" that humans make; I am still unique in making them. This also means that I must be unique I overcoming and unique in loving myself.
I am not my decisions
I am not my decisions. After accepting myself and noting the fact that I am a self. I then noted the fact that I am not my decisions. One element of myself doesn't define me as a person. Only I can define me, no one else can.
I am not my friends, family or parents
I am not my past relationships
I am not my failures
I am not my successes
I am a product of what I have been through and overcame. I am a product of my experiences that have shaped me into a good person who strives to empower others. I am a product of my never-ending fight to be the best that I can be as instructed by God.
Who are you? Tell me on my Instagram: @faithnturtles
How can you accept yourself and come to a distinct understanding about your being but you have not forgiven yourself? How can you ask God for forgiveness but you have not forgiven yourself?
In the answers to these questions, I found self-love.
"if we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" 1st John 1:9
It's a Journey
Loving yourself won't happen overnight. You need to take the time to know yourself, accept yourself, forgive yourself and then the love will find you.
It's a journey and a process of continued improvement but with faith, you will get there, if you aren't already.
I hope you got a take away from my experiences and writing. Thank you so much for reading and Thank you to Nancy for featuring me on her blog. You can read her Journey to self-love piece: here.
FaithnTurtles is a lifestyle blog created by Shanice, a Caribbean girl with Big Dreams. Shanice holds a B.Sc. in Psychology and tries to use her platform to share life and self-help tips and tricks with faith at the base.
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